Doors close Sunday, July 2 at 11:59pm EST

Most of us were raised to believe that respect = obedience. And when we see defiance, attitude, or backtalk, our gut reaction is to shut. it. the f. down.

But here’s what no one tells us:

Disrespect isn’t always about defiance. It’s usually a sign that your child’s nervous system is totally overwhelmed — which means their brain isn’t even capable of being reasonable in that moment.

When kids push back, refuse to listen, or explode over “nothing,” their brain has gone into Fight Response. They’re not thinking, they’re *reacting.*

They are wired to resist before they can regulate.

And here’s where most of us go wrong: We fight back instead of understanding what’s actually happening.

But when we do that, we accidentally block our child’s ability to calm down. Their frustration doesn’t go away — they push it down and it just gets buried under shame.

So if shutting it down doesn’t work… does that mean we just let them be disrespectful?

NOPE. Not even close 💛 

I teach something totally different from most parenting experts.

A lot of experts tell you to try to “connect” when your child is *blowing up.* To bring them closer, to get them to cry instead of yell, to try and soften them into a vulnerable moment.

Aaaaand I don’t think that works.

When your kid is already fired up, the last thing they need is a forced heart-to-heart. What they actually need is a strong boundary and the space to blow off steam — so they can release all that pent-up energy instead of stuffing it down.

That’s why I teach parents how to own the hell out of their boundaries  — but WITH LOVE.

That’s why I teach parents how to own the hell out of their boundaries  — but WITH LOVE.

⭐️ The real reason your child talks back, refuses to listen, and acts out — so you can stop reacting and start responding in a way that actually helps.

⭐️ How to hold firm, no-BS boundaries without giving in OR losing it.

⭐️ Why shutting down “disrespect” usually backfires—and what to do instead.

⭐️ How to stop getting sucked into the power struggles that leave you feeling drained and guilty.

⭐️ The hidden connection between shame, self-worth, and emotional regulation — and how to make sure your child doesn’t carry the same struggles we grew up with.

This is NOT a workshop about “letting your child get away with disrespect.”

That will transform how you deal with your toddler or teen's disrespect and defiance.

With ✨SCRIPTS✨ giving you the words to say with your child or teen.

"Honestly it’s basic but so fundamentally important to my Perspectacles shift: my kid is actually normal, not an out of control spoiled little brat (as certain family members try to tell me regularly).

And I will not shame her into ever believing that of herself. And that I am not pandering to her or letting her get away with stuff by letting her blow when she needs to and loving her through it. 😍 Thank you Maggie!"

''I have truly read every parenting book and this is what I've been looking for - strategies to help me not fall into people pleasing with my kids. Tools to hold my boundaries confidently and feel successful as a parent. 

Maggie has a gift. Her scripts are priceless and this approach has changed my relationship with my kids for the better in countless ways. Highly recommend."

'' I’ve always struggled with confidence as a parent, I just could never hold the boundary when my kids were whining and screaming. 

All I can say is wow. This framework is incredible and really helping me with my son’s defiance. I actually feel confident now. What the what?! ''

"After months and months of hostility and tension with my teenager, with“I hate you!” and “I wish you weren’t my Mom!” so much of the time, things are turning around for us.

Maggie, you’ve taught me how to see through that obnoxious attitude and her rage to my child underneath. I can get through to her now 😭 She’s letting me in again 😭 She’s not always angry at me 😭 I feel like we really, truly love each other again 😭

Knowing that we’re going to be okay..together = priceless. Thank you is not enough."

"Your parenting scripts are pure MAGIC. I'm able to connect with my kid instantly. Even when they're shutting me out. You've saved my relationship with my teenager. I love you and your Perspectacles so much."

Doors close Sunday, July 2 at 11:59pm EST

I’m a Mom in the trenches, just like you. Every single day, I’m trying to give my kids the parent I needed and deserved when I was a kid.

Like so many of us, I was a "good" kid. I followed the rules, kept the peace, did what was expected of me… and spent most of my life drowning in perfectionism, people pleasing, codependency, and vicious self-hate.

When I decided to have kids, I was determined to heal. I didn’t want them to carry the same wounds I had spent years untangling. I didn’t want them to struggle with feeling “not good enough,” with second-guessing themselves, with battling the same inner voice that told me I had to earn love by being perfect.

And let me tell you—nothing has tested that healing more than my child’s disrespect.

I thought I was prepared. I thought I had done the work. But the first time my child talked back to me, rolled their eyes, or flat-out refused to listen, something inside me snapped. I felt a rage I didn’t even know was there.

And in those moments, I wanted to do things I swore I would never do.

I wanted to shut it down. I wanted to give them the Silent Treatment. And that realization gutted me—because I knew what that felt like as a kid. I knew the pit in the stomach, the desperate attempts to fix it, the deep, gut-wrenching feeling of being “too much” or “not enough.”

And yet… there I was. About to pass it down.

That’s when it hit me.

This is how generational trauma works.

I wasn’t a bad mom. I was a mom whose nervous system was wired to see "disrespect" as a threat. I was a mom who had been conditioned—just like so many of us—to shut it down. To demand obedience. To do whatever it took to make my kid stop.

Not because I wanted to be harsh. But because no one ever taught me another way.

So I dug in. I went deeper into my healing than ever before. I learned what was actually happening in my child’s brain when they were being “disrespectful.” I learned how to hold my boundaries with love—without snapping, without shame, and without backing down. And it changed everything.

It changed my parenting. It changed my child. It changed me.

And now, I get to teach it to you.

This Workshop Is ✨Everything✨ I Wish I Had When I Felt Like I Was Failing As A Mom.

I want you to feel calm, confident, and in control when your kid is pushing every single one of your buttons. I want you to stop taking the disrespect personally and start seeing what’s actually going on under the surface—so you can respond in a way that actually works.

I want you to own the hell out of your boundaries with love.

I want you to be the Confident, Loving Leader your child needs—not a parent walking on eggshells, not a parent exploding in frustration, not a parent stuck in guilt and shame.

I want you to break the cycle. And I can show you exactly how to do it.

🔥 Join me for this workshop

And learn HOW to handle your child’s disrespect without yelling, shutting it down, or letting it slide. You don’t have to choose between being calm or being firm. You can be both. And I’ll show you how 💛 

Will this help me if my kid is a toddler? Teen?

YES! Y'all, the marvelous new is that ALL kids, no matter what age have the same 6 Core Needs. Obviously we have to adapt a bit to meet our kid where they are developmentally, but the basics of the way you respond to a kid when they're melting down is the same whether they're a toddler or a teen!

I'm brand new to Parenting With Perspectacles. Will this still help me?

YES! 100%. This Workshop will help any parent - whether you've been practicing Parenting With Perspectacles for years or you just found me today!

I did your Boundaries With Perspectacles BOOTCAMP. Did you cover the information in this Workshop also in Bootcamp?

This Workshop includes brand NEW material that I have never taught before. Bootcamp gives you a really solid foundation to build on BUT I don't have the time or space to deep dive into disrespect + defiance during Bootcamp the way I do in this Workshop!

My kid doesn't have meltdowns. Never has. Now what?

Recovering "good" kid here. I never did, either.

So: all kids need regular emotional releases. If they're never melting down or challenging us with disrespect and defiance...Perspectacles on: they're bottling everything up + emotionally imploding. And their self-worth is taking that hit.

In this Workshop, I will be explaining all of this + how to encourage + help your kid feel safe releasing feelings + challenging you. 

..AND I will walk you through how to allow your kid to challenge you + release their big feelings while holding strong boundaries/consequences around unacceptable behavior.

Do you offer a Payment Plan for this Workshop?

I do! You pay $59 USD today, then a second payment of $59 USD will be automatically debited 14 days after the first payment.

"This Workshop and Maggie's approach to disrespect have transformed our household. Gamechanging for defiance. Gamechanging for anxiety (theirs AND mine).”

LISA

"I felt lost in all the parenting frameworks out there. Some felt too harsh, others too permissive. I needed a parenting framework I felt good about, and tools to carry it out. I absolutely got that from Maggie and her parenting framework.

I have the tools I need to be my daughter's Confident Leader. With my increased confidence and consistency, I can tell my daughter feels safer and more secure. We are more connected, my expectations are way more reasonable, and I understand her so so much better than before."

" Your entire perspective on parenting without shame has changed how I view everything about my parenting and I've become more aware of my kid's self-worth. Thank you, thank you, thank you for showing me accountability DOES NOT require shame.

The work you're doing is incredible and mindblowing and is going to change the world."

Maggie's focus on boundaries, teaching children to trust themselves and their emotions and just allowing everyone to be HUMAN really clicked with us. The way we parent now feels 'right' and our household is so much happier. We're fans for life!"

Doors close Sunday, July 2 at 11:59pm EST