The Top 10 Things to say to your toddler or teen to strengthen their self-worth and help them feel loved without conditions.

The words we say to our kids MATTER.

Let me give you the words to say.

I'm giving you the top 10 most impactful things I say to my own kids to help them feel seen + loved, as a Therapist + Expert in Parenting + low self-worth - 

✅  Words for when you need to set a boundary - 
When your kid is playing unsafely, trying to hit, can't control themselves

✅  Words for when your kid is being "challenging" at mealtimes -
How to put the focus back on them listening to their body WITHOUT a power struggle.

✅  Words for when kid says "You don't love me," "I'm so stupid" + "Nobody likes me" - 
How to hold space + validate the underlying feelings.

✅  Words for when your kid is melting down about every little thing - 
How to help them feel safe with their Big Feelings.

✅  Words for when your kid is spiraling with shame + self-hatred - 
How to help them know they're not alone.

✅  Words for when your kid is mad, frustrated or scared.

✅  Words to help your kid feel confident making decisions for themselves -
How to help them trust themselves to know what they need.

✅  Words to cheer your kid on when they speak their needs.

✅  Words for helping your kid feel comfortable setting boundaries + saying, "No."

✅  Words for when you yell or mess up + need to apologize to your kid -
How to break the Stalemate + Repair with your kid instead of sweeping it under the rug.

Start using your words to make your kid feel seen + loved without conditions today

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Downloadable PDF guide

" I'm a Therapist and you're taking the things I teach my clients to say to their Inner Child, and teaching parents to say that to their children.

I don't have words to fully express how amazing that is. I recommend your parenting framework to every single client, but for parenting AND for reparenting their Inner Child."

- Tamara, Therapist

How is this different from Words That Work?

This guide is designed to be a quick reference guide with quick scripts for 10 tricky parenting situations. ($10 USD)

Words That Work is more extensive - I give you scripts for 11 tricky parenting situations PLUS a pep talk - basically I include what I would say to you if you called me in that moment, to help you get your Perspectacles on. ($27 USD)

Click below to learn more about Words That Work!

H I , I ' M   M A G G I E 

I’m the founder of Parenting With Perspectacles, I have a thriving counseling practice specializing in low self-worth and shame. And I'm a Mama in the trenches, too!

I'm ALL DONE with parents AND kids feeling like they're failing.

Like most people I know, I struggled with perfectionism, people pleasing, and codependent relationships + viscous self hate.

I was freaking determined to heal myself before having kids so that my kids wouldn’t struggle with all that stuff.

But YEARS of therapy and even grad school for counseling still didn’t help me to understand why I HATED myself so much and why at 29, I still struggled to sit with my feelings.

I created Parenting with Perspectacles to give parents a framework to help them raise confident kids and break the cycle of low self-worth that has made many of us feel like nothing we do is ever good enough.  

I’m on a mission to inspire parents to be Cycle Breakers —

to face the messed up parts of how we were parented and say, "This ends with me!"

By helping you get your Perspectacles on and ✨SEE THROUGH✨  your kid's attitude and behavior to The Real Them underneath.

How to hold kids accountable for their behavior WITHOUT the tools our parents used like The Silent Treatment and "I'm not mad, I'm disappointed."

Parents of toddlers to teenagers in 54 countries are using my game changing framework to repair and create connection AND help their kids feel confident, trust themselves and deeply know their worth.

I can't wait to help you and your family, too!

"I now know what to say to my kids when I get triggered. How to not damage them with my anger. That's priceless."

- Molly, Mama of 3 (ages 5, 4 + 11 months)

" Your parenting scripts are pure magic. I'm able to connect with my kid instantly. Even when they're shutting me out. You've saved my relationship with my teenager. I love you and your Perspectacles so much."

- Trina, Mama of 3 (ages 13, 10 + 8)

FROM LAUREN, MAMA OF 2 (12 + 8)

" These scripts work like MAGIC with my kids! My 12 year old is my 'good kid' so the scripts about self-hatred and clingy/needy behavior have helped me most with him. But my 8 year old is my "challenging" kid (he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder) and honestly, every single script has helped me with him.

It's like I finally have that missing piece - knowing exactly what words to say - and it is making such a difference for our whole family. We cannot thank you enough, Maggie. "

FROM ASHLEY + RYAN, PARENTS OF 2 (ages 5 + 3)

"Parenting with Perspectacles' Boundaries Bootcamp has completely changed our home! I followed PWP on social media for a while and realized her posts were really making sense to me but did NOT match what was happening in our house. We attended her Boundaries Bootcamp and it was life-changing. I knew we were parenting in a way that didn't feel right but didn't know what else to do.

Maggie's focus on boundaries, teaching children to trust themselves and their emotions, and just allowing everyone to be HUMAN really clicked with us. The way we parent now feels 'right' and our household is so much happier. We're fans for life!"

FROM LAUREN, MAMA OF 2 (ages 17 + 13)

“It’s happening, Maggie. I get what is happening and I feel like I know what the &$@% I am doing. Now, I do have my moments...but thanks to you, I know screwing up is important and I know what to do when I screw up to connect again and move forward together. You're changing our whole world, my kids are less anxious and so am I. Thank you."

FROM CONNIE, MAMA OF 3 (ages 15, 12 + 8)

“My girl (15) is coming back to me. We have our moments but I’m able to see her under that attitude and connect with her. That is everything.”

FROM CARLY, MAMA OF 2 (ages 17 + 12) :

“I kept breathing and tried telling him 'it is ok to be upset but the answer is no.’ I was able to see how badly he needed to as you say, blow the F up! Then all of a sudden, the anger turned to tears and my boy cried hard. I could tell he had been holding so much stuff in that he probably felt like he needed to burst. I can hardly believe how differently it all went…I feel so much hope that I will survive this whole teenage thing afterall!"

FROM DEANA, MAMA OF 2 (ages 14 + 11) :

"Thank you Maggie, for helping me find my way back to my kids. I'm able to see them as struggling and needing help instead of bad and bratty like I used to. It has made such a difference all around. Highly recommend to any parent! "

FROM LISA, MAMA OF 2 (AGES 6 + 3)

“I love how Maggie always says to me: ‘YOU’RE A HUMAN, NOT A FREAKING ROBOT!’ This is the only parenting approach I’ve ever found that has space in it for me to have imperfect mom moments without feeling like the worst mom ever. Which somehow has magically allowed me to be a much better mom – and – go easier on myself when I struggle to be the mom my kiddos need me to be.”

FROM AUDREY, MAMA OF 2 (AGES 9 + 13)

 “I really like how you teach Maggie! I like how you explain things in simple terms. And I like how I feel like I am talking with a girlfriend, but clearly you know your $#!% because you’re a therapist. But I like how you don’t talk all high + mighty, if that makes sense.”

FROM A DAD OF 4 (AGES 15, 12, 10 + 10)

“You and your Perspectacles have completely shifted the way we see the kids. You have changed everything. Your work is brilliant.”

FROM SARA, MAMA OF 3 (AGES 8, 6 + 3)

“Helped me understand parenting on a whole other level. I used to be resentful of my kids for their acting out. It’s mind-blowing how it actually all makes sense now.”

Q U E S T I O N S
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Q: Will this help me if my kid is a teen? Or a toddler?

YES! All kids, no matter what age need the same 6 Things from us - to feel safe, soothed, seen, secure, valuable/loved without conditions + to release Big Feelings. Obviously we have to adapt a bit to meet our kid where they are developmentally, but the basics of the way you respond to a kid when they're melting down is the same whether they're a toddler or a teen!

Q: I'm brand new to Parenting With Perspectacles. Will this still help me?

YES! 100%. This Guide will help any parent - whether they've been practicing Parenting With Perspectacles for years or just found your way here!

Q: Is this a book or an e-book?

This is a PDF downloadable guide. Save it to your phone + print out copies for your refrigerator, car + bag!

Start using your words to make your kid feel seen + loved without conditions today 🙌

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